How Unexpressed Emotions Affect Us and Our Body

Unexpressed emotions are a dormant volcano that lurks in the body of the host. They can affect us even while doing something fun, like playing with or going out with your friends. Why does this happen?

The ABCs of Feelings

Even in the philosophy of ancient China, the human body was viewed holistically, taking into account its integrity with nature and their interrelationship. Various healing practices, such as acupuncture, herbalism, osteopathy and ascesis, came to aid in the study of body and spirit.

Great attention was paid to the mental attitude and condition of the person, taking care of his psychohygiene, purity of thoughts and culture of upbringing.

Over time, healing took on a divided status, where body and soul began to be dissected separately. But the modern world again reflected on the fact that thought and body are one. So great strata in science and medicine have developed, studying the psychosomatic laws of body and spirit and their mutual influence.

Psychological Concussion

From the Latin, emotion (emoveo) translates as “to excite, to shake.” Emotions are instinctive-reflex sensors that can reflect our moods, states, intentions, and desires in order for a person to skillfully integrate into a situation.

But what happens to an individual when emotional sensors are triggered and there is no response?

For the individual this can be fatal, as the natural reaction to danger or stimulus would be defense or attack. This is the instinct for self-preservation, where aggression comes into play with the hormonal doping cocktail of “fight or flight.” If you can’t fight, just as you can’t run away, your body will go into a stupor. Numbness, muscular armor, clamps and blood pressure spikes are left waiting for the unknown (death).

Therefore, if a person has experienced fright, abuse, bullying, loss, their brain and body may freeze, and the emotional monostasis will remain a trauma that will leave a scar in the person’s behavioral strategy and response. This can be clearly seen in the “frozen gaze,” the petrified face and body, the stiffened body and the clumsiness of gait, speech, gestures and ways of responding. An experienced therapist will know what is wrong with you without even seeing you, just by hearing you.

The Behavioral Code of the Psyche

Our brains live by the principles of the paradigm of conserving energy and finding a safe strategy. Everyone’s safety scales are different, and so are our ways of responding. There are times when one is accustomed from childhood to a harsh situation where one’s psyche is comfortable with things that would drive another person insane.

What Is the Secret of Such Different Reactions?

Our behavioral code regulates the ways in which we behave and react to what happens and their norms. And if your body suddenly “froze” while in trauma (mental, physical, sexual), it means that your brain was not ready for such a turn of events and didn’t find an adequate response to what had happened.

The spasms one experiences when faced with an unexpected danger or unresolved problem are an emotional mobilization because the individual has not yet recognized exactly how to behave. This is how repressed layers of emotions are formed, where the body and brain have not been discharged, but the way of reacting has been learned and will work as a pattern, disrupting hormonal and biochemical processes, keeping the body in chronic stress. This, in turn, will lead to mental and physical ailments, up to and including fatal ones.

Virtually all injuries are caused by a lack of knowledge of possible danger, and it’s the accumulated positive experience of survival that is interpreted as life and its duration.

Is It Possible to “Reflash” the Behavioral System?

The possibilities of our body are limitless. A person is capable of recovering from terrible diseases or letting his life go to waste with equal fervor.

Is it possible to teach a person new reactions? Yes, it is.

But to do so in therapy, he will have to return to where he is psychologically dead or frozen. Where his body, his brain, has been suppressed, disarmed, humiliated, and his emotions have no outlet.

Psychotherapy in exploring the path of trauma provides an opportunity to live that story again, finding victory, retribution (if you will), where one will want to live and manifest again, but already with the right skills and tools.

The evolutionary-instinctive, archaic root cause of “freeze-out” is that if you lose, you must leave the pack or die, becoming fodder. Wild predators still live by this principle. But even today humans have both winners and outsiders. Which one should you be? You decide.

A Preventive Guide to Psychological Health

The causes of everything that happens to you are the result of your attitude and behavior. Until you see or want to know why and why this is all happening to you, you will continue to get your lesson.

Everyone chooses their own pain. But attitudes about it can come out in two very different strategies, where:

  • The pain will become an incentive to move on and explore the cause-and-effect path, gaining new skills, or 
  • To fall into a victim state, every time “freezing” from the blows of an already predictable life scenario.

Emotional pain can be beneficial and necessary to its owner for a variety of reasons, from waiting for the best moment to jump to sacrificial manipulation. But to become a psychologically healthy person today, it is worth sorting out your skeleton in the closet.

Developing the ability to be “here and now” is about life consistency, it’s about being able to live through what’s happening without clamping down or getting stuck. It’s the perfect fluidity of emotions, adaptively built into life, where there is no division into bad and good emotions because there is the knowledge of how to live them.

This contact with yourself and your emotions will allow you to not only stay healthy, but to live a full and fulfilled life.

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